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Marla Grant's avatar

I teach a course called "Helping Children with Loss" to adults who have children in their care. This is one of the basic principles I teach them. When a child achieves something we often say, "I'm so proud of you!" when really the more appropriate thing to ask them is how they feel about their accomplishment. When we reinforce external rewards, a child grows up thinking that validation and worth must come from outside themselves. As adults, we then constantly seek it from others or from achievements when in fact, the only way to truly feel confident and worthy is if it's an inherent thought we embody every day. Then, no matter what happens in the world around us, we know we're solid.

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Mansi Kwatra's avatar

"The litter haul" 😆

That is some really smart writing. So impactful.

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