Yes, I felt this circulating around in my thoughts today and to be honest it has been lurking underneath - I noticed that I seem to be colder in person than I am in texting on the phone … and I tell myself that it’s because I believe the other person expects me to be cold, so I am… I don’t know if that makes so much sense… however it’s an insight I had recently and I am still really only in the process of learning what’s beneath the hood.
Awareness is the first intervention.. Thanks for bringing me in for a glimpse in your world. You're not alone. A lot of us have spent years building reward pathways through the digital world, and in-person interactions are a heckuva lot different.
"...So I am", what are some of the tendencies that make one feel like you're a cold communicator?
Thanks for this important topic, Tristan. I'm sure many of us resonate with it. I liked your writing style as well, appreciating the breaks you added for some poetic reflections.
This pub hits home for me - why?
Because most of my adult life I lived as Superwoman - supporting everyone else in my life but not realizing that I could ask for support, too. As bizarre as it might sound, it didn't even occur to me. It took me years of walking the spiritual path of self-discovery, to change my perspective. I had to shift out of my subconscious belief that I was responsible for others' well-being, and that I didn't need anyone to support me.
But here's a truism : 'life is made just hard enough to make us need each other'.
And what a beautiful thing that is!
We are hardwired to live in community. It's literally encoded in our DNA, so why fight it?
Well, I don't anymore. Rarely. I've learned to embrace the loving support and mostly ask for it when needed!
Thank you for offering your reflections and the invitations to open ourselves up to community.🙏😊
You weren't alone either. Society's pressure and expectation can sometimes operate our biology at a subconscious level. Parenting is no easy task, and you're so right, we are hardwired to live in community. 'Why fight it?' YES. Sounds like things changed, and I'm going to throw out the old adage that everything happens for a reason. ;-)
If you were to have reached out for support during this Superwoman era, how may it have changed who you were to yourself in relation the people in your life?
Everything happens for a reason, or not - could be a great title for the next pub :)
Had I reached out for support it could have been a game changer. Though, living in the Now and trusting the Path of Life does not have me spending much time in the space of hypothesizing. I trust that my path unfolded exactly how it needed to unfold, Superwoman and all. The good, the bad, and the ugly.
The beauty of this life is that we get to learn, reset, and then share our lived wisdom with others.🙏😊
Friends want you to share your life with them, it’s so normal to talk to them. I guess certain friends I feel like I rely on them too much or never stop talking about my problems.
I was this years old when I realized, with panic, that dissociation and disassociation are not interchangeable. Luckily, I use neither word too often. Good post, and good information.
What if those efforts were a gift to the person on the other end? If for no other reason. This.
Yes, I felt this circulating around in my thoughts today and to be honest it has been lurking underneath - I noticed that I seem to be colder in person than I am in texting on the phone … and I tell myself that it’s because I believe the other person expects me to be cold, so I am… I don’t know if that makes so much sense… however it’s an insight I had recently and I am still really only in the process of learning what’s beneath the hood.
Awareness is the first intervention.. Thanks for bringing me in for a glimpse in your world. You're not alone. A lot of us have spent years building reward pathways through the digital world, and in-person interactions are a heckuva lot different.
"...So I am", what are some of the tendencies that make one feel like you're a cold communicator?
Thanks for this important topic, Tristan. I'm sure many of us resonate with it. I liked your writing style as well, appreciating the breaks you added for some poetic reflections.
This pub hits home for me - why?
Because most of my adult life I lived as Superwoman - supporting everyone else in my life but not realizing that I could ask for support, too. As bizarre as it might sound, it didn't even occur to me. It took me years of walking the spiritual path of self-discovery, to change my perspective. I had to shift out of my subconscious belief that I was responsible for others' well-being, and that I didn't need anyone to support me.
But here's a truism : 'life is made just hard enough to make us need each other'.
And what a beautiful thing that is!
We are hardwired to live in community. It's literally encoded in our DNA, so why fight it?
Well, I don't anymore. Rarely. I've learned to embrace the loving support and mostly ask for it when needed!
Thank you for offering your reflections and the invitations to open ourselves up to community.🙏😊
Love this reflection!
You weren't alone either. Society's pressure and expectation can sometimes operate our biology at a subconscious level. Parenting is no easy task, and you're so right, we are hardwired to live in community. 'Why fight it?' YES. Sounds like things changed, and I'm going to throw out the old adage that everything happens for a reason. ;-)
If you were to have reached out for support during this Superwoman era, how may it have changed who you were to yourself in relation the people in your life?
Love your reflection.
Everything happens for a reason, or not - could be a great title for the next pub :)
Had I reached out for support it could have been a game changer. Though, living in the Now and trusting the Path of Life does not have me spending much time in the space of hypothesizing. I trust that my path unfolded exactly how it needed to unfold, Superwoman and all. The good, the bad, and the ugly.
The beauty of this life is that we get to learn, reset, and then share our lived wisdom with others.🙏😊
oh man this is hit hard for me. I feel like such a pain on my friends sometimes. Digital spaces has made it so much worse.
right, because we have an ALWAYS accessible band-aid for any sort of discomfort. What can you remind yourself when that judgmental voice comes up?
Friends want you to share your life with them, it’s so normal to talk to them. I guess certain friends I feel like I rely on them too much or never stop talking about my problems.
I was this years old when I realized, with panic, that dissociation and disassociation are not interchangeable. Luckily, I use neither word too often. Good post, and good information.
What if those efforts were a gift to the person on the other end? If for no other reason. This.
It really was a wake-up call for me. What a foreign concept, that my presence might very well be a gift?
Where does dissociation bubble up for you?